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"Teenage domestic abuse isn't as serious as adult domestic abuse?"

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True or False??


It's FALSE!

This is a common mistake!

It is really important to point out that there are similarities and differences between teenage and adult abuse, such as:

  • This could be someone's first experience, and has nothing to compare it to and may think this is normal
  • Peer pressure from friends to have a boy or girl friend, and/or to have sexually active.
  • Some people may be very concerned about their parents finding out about the abuse. They may think that their parents will 'freak out' or handle it in a bad way.
  • They may think that their parents may not understand or take them seriously.
  • If they attend the same school, college, workplace or social group, it means they have to see their abuser everyday which can make it very hard to end the relationship - and much riskier

 

WHAT Iwhere-is-the-loveS ABUSE??

The Women's Aid definition of domestic violence is physical, sexual, psychological or financial violence that takes place within an intimate or family-type relationship and that forms a pattern of coercive and controlling behaviour.

This can include forced marriage and so-called 'honour crimes'. Domestic violence may include a range of abusive behaviours, not all of which are in themselves inherently 'violent'.

The government has recently adapted it's definition so that it includes, "Any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse..."

 WHO DOES IT AFFECT?

  • Anyone can experience domestic violence regardless of race, ethnic or religious group, class, disability or lifestyle.
  • Domestic violence and abuse also affects children, who are almost always witnesses to the abuse.
  • Domestic violence can also take place in lesbian, gay, bi-sexual and transgender relationships

 

EXAMPLES OF ABUSE:question makrs purple

PHYSICAL

Hitting, punching, pushing, shoving, slapping, scratching, throwing objects, banging your head against a wall or floor, burning with cigarettes or hot objects, scalding, suffocating, holding your head under water, stabbing, cutting, choking, hair pulling, kicking, stamping on, dragging from a building or car, biting, shaking, face shoved in food or mess, forces fed drugs or alcohol, MURDER.

 EMOTIONAL

Threats, put-downs, shouting, calling you names, excessive jealousy, preventing contact with friends/family, constant calls/texts, following/stalking you, checking up on you and/or your phone, not allowing you to go out, spreading rumours or lies, breaking your phone or other property, passing round photos of you, showing people private texts or letters, lying to you, cheating on you, blackmail, aggressions (punching walls, banging doors), expecting you to fetch and carry, deliberately embarrassing you, choosing your clothes, leaving you stranded, standing you up, never turning up on time.

SEXUAL

Pressuring or blackmailing you into having sex, forcing you to do things you don't want to do, not practicing safe sex, giving you transmitted diseases (STD), passing round sexual pictures/videos of you, telling people what sexual acts you have done together, using objects or hurting you, pressuring you to have sex with friends/other people, forcing you to wear sexy clothes (or forcing you to cover up), rape, belittling your body or saying your bad in bed, giving you drugs or alcohol so you will have sex.

FINANCIAL

Steals money from you or your family, forces you to give them access to your bank accounts, make you feel as though you don't have a right to know any details about YOUR OWN money, makes you have an “allowance”, forces to you to account for all money you spend E.g. asking for receipts, prevents you from working or attending school, uses your credit cards or refuse to pay bills, withholds resources from you including food and clothes, forces you to give them your wages or benefits, opening credit/store cards in your name, makes you pay for everything.

Childline: 0800 1111

National Domestic Violence 24 Hour Helpline: 0808 2000 247